By Virginia Reeter, AndersonValleyPost.com
Listening to a talk show host on the radio recently, I was appalled to learn that people behave so badly to co-workers on the job these days — and it’s getting worse.
One of the contributing reasons for it is the stress stemming from the declining economy and the everyday challenges at home and work that add pressure to the mix.
The show host even said that violence has been reported in some situations when an employee even struck a co-worker. In some cases, it seems that the stress in climbing to advance one’s status in a career is also a culprit that creates competition that can lead to misbehavior.
People try to hide mistakes or pass the blame on to another person when, in reality, they should fess up. Honesty is the best policy in any situation.
I can truly say, through the years, I’ve seen my share of bullies on the job that acted as if they were never wrong. I’ve made it a policy to get along with others and avoid conflicts since my high school days when I first joined the American work force. Standing my ground on important matters is sometimes important, but to blatantly misbehave on the time clock is unacceptable. Bullies are a dime a dozen, as far as I’m concerned.
Treating your co-workers respectfully is simply expected, no matter what the field of employment or career happens to be, although there are those who test your tolerance level. As far as those who continue to offend you, ridicule or treat you inappropriately, document it, talk to their superior if you can’t resolve it between yourselves. That’s what human resources advise.
It’s not easy being nice all of the time. People pushing our buttons at work can worsen the entire scenario.
Human Resource experts claim that by documenting all incidents, it’s up to the employer to then take action.
Working in close quarters can be tedious. Back in the days when I was a full-time journalist, I caught a little flak out in the public for a typo or humorous headline, but mostly it was for fun – just to get my reaction. Back then, at work, I also caught it for just being an easy-going person. However, you’d best not get me riled. I’ve learned to defend myself better and can match wits, too.
Stress is a difficult thing that can push a person to the limit or beyond — to a point of being out of control. We see it on television and read about it in the newspaper; how some disgruntled worker went off the deep end and opened fire in the workplace and killed or maimed innocent people.
There are books on the subject dealing with stress. I’ve seen them on the bookshelves at numerous retail shops.
Life is only so long, so make the best of it while you can. Go get some counseling before you consider shooting somebody. I have had, from time to time, a few co-workers that, in jest, I thought needed to be put out of their misery, however.
In arriving at work each morning, my boss prefers a friendly greeting, a little small talk before diving into the issue of the day. I like that concept. It gives everybody a chance to settle in, think kind thoughts and ease into what might be a difficult challenge and not necessarily of the pleasant variety.
So, as I drove to work listening to that radio talk show recently, stunned by how people are conducting themselves in some work environments, I’m thankful I have pleasant co-workers with whom I can share my day.
In fact, every now and then I even stop at the donut shop and bring in a dozen, something that I believe works better than a note of “Thanks guys! You’re a neat bunch.”
We don’t want to get too carried away and put obligation on our co-workers, but a nice gesture or kind words go a long, long way towards relieving stress in the work place.
Getting up in the morning in a healthy frame of mind is a good thing and can set the pace for your day. I know how waking up on the wrong side of the bed can ruin a perfectly good day. Right now, with school back in session, my grandsons are happier than having to wade though the boring summer days. They wake up alert, ready to take on the challenges.
School has made a huge improvement in everybody’s attitude around my house. I don’t have to fix so many lunches each morning, just my own lunch two or three times a week. Out in the public now and then, I just grab my lunch on the run.
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